I guess I am a pansexual?
ReliefI say this as one who has had many in depth conversations with individuals to discuss this aspect, and I have delved deep into my conscious to come to this conclusion that so many others have such a hard time grasping. When you ask a man if he would ever have sex with another man, he says "Fuck no! I'm no fag!" which just proves that he is a narrow minded warmongering inferior being. Sexuality is not real, for it is possible for anyone to desire someone of the same sex. If a man met another man alone, and neither knew the others gender and they fell in love, and you asked that man if he would have sex with his e-buddy who pledged his soul to, his answer would be, "Yes! I love them, I want to share that with them." Do you think if they met and found out the others gender their love would simply vanish into thin air? The same goes for a seemingly "gay" man who meets someone online, does not know their gender yet pledges his love and wishes to share the intimate act of sex with.
Humans do not fall in love with someone because "Oh my God he has a PENIS I HAVE TO MARRY HIM RIGHT NOW! Do you see that? Jeezus look! He has a penis! I love you for the organ that hangs off your body!" No, to put us so simply is pure insult. I do not love my girlfriend because she has boobs and a vagina, I love her for her mind and soul, I love her for her ideals and personality, not for her reproductive organs. You would not fall out of love with someone simply because they had a penis or vagina. For the "Hetero" beings that read this, if you married a man and or a woman and a horrible accident happened and they either lost their penis or ended up with one, would you divorce them? Would you throw away every bit of love you had for them because they did not have a phallus or clitoris? I certainly hope not, because if so, I am sorry. You are a sad and disgraceful bit of humanity.
I can admit to being attracted to my girlfriend because she has boobs and a vagina, but if she didn't it wouldn't change my feelings for her at all. I would love her just as equally as I do now, if she was a man. I believe people who identify themselves as "bisexual" have a grasp on what I say, it is possible to favor certain equipment that you would like your partners to have, but those who are "bisexual" admit to being attracted to both genders. I do not believe this is a desire for both a penis and breasts, but an acknowledgement that they will love who they love, no matter if they have a buldge in their pants or two in their shirt. "Lesbians" are those who I think are more commonly attracted, physically, to females, I call myself a "lesbian" but I have been attracted to men before. But never had an emotional attraction to them. "Lesbians" do not soley chose their partners based on how big their tits are, I imagine if a lesbian were to meet a guy and fell in love she would accept it, after realizing what I have written here. The same goes for "gay" men. I believe "straight" women have a grasp on this concept, as many have been attracted not just physically but emotionally as well to their female friends, but most chose to ignore said attraction, while others admit to, thusly proclaiming themselves "bisexual". "Straight" men however are far more closed minded than any of these groups. They have to be the epitome of "macho" and thusly any feelings for a another male, other than rage or friendship, instantly results in rage and a desire to prove they are not "fags". Which I am sorry, this is one reason I have little respect for men, yes I am sexist.
My point through all of that is this: Sexuality is a label the closed minded of society gives to something they cannot fully comprehend. Love is what drives us, whether you love a female or a male, you love another human being and to put that wonderful emotion down to a matter of a penis or a vagina is disgraceful and sad.
For the sarcastic and closed minded out there who will may try and cut this argument down, I have this to say: wanting sex with an animal does not even remotely relate to what I have written here. Yes, I have had someone try and use that before, it does not work. Beastility is another box of...well thats just sick, its a different sport all together.
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It's exactly the same with my girlfriend. If she had a penis, I wouldn't care, I'd still love her, or him, or whoever
Considering that, I guess I might be Pansexual as well!
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The way I see your argument is that if you ordered coke, and got pepsi, you would not raise a huge fuss, and you would enjoy the pepsi as much as you could.
I don't see that as pansexual, I see that as coke loving. You love coke's sweet and sensuous curves, her large eyes, and her full lips. And heck, if you got the right Pepsi, it might actually taste like coke, so who cares?
See, there's a difference between love and sexual attraction. Some people can love each other and not be sexually attracted, they are asexuals. Some people, like you seem to claim, have Gynephillia, the sexual attraction to femininity. Others have Androphillia, the sexual attraction to masculinity. It isn't about the boobs, cause some of my guy friends are C cups, and I've met some flat chested girls before, it isn't about the state of your genitalia, cause, face it, we never see that. It is how they express their gender.
And this is kind of the fact that I was making with my hate of this theory of Pansexuality, it comes close to saying those dreaded words I flip out at people for using, "The ability to love any gender, even transgenders." >.<
Julia Serano described this best in her book "Whipping Girl." That a Trans Girl is uber sexy because her feminine expression can over power her years of aversion and Y chromosomes, she is sexy, not because of her penis or vagina, because assuming that other's genitalia are for your pleasure and not their own makes you a selfish lover, but because she is indeed very feminine.
Mhm, so to recap, liking a guy that you mistaken for a girl, and going with it anyways still makes you a lesbian, hun.
I would like to argue here, that no gender/sex is naturally more inclined towards having an open or a closed mind. Most of these "straight" men were raised under constant urges to act and think in a macho manner.
You say you are a sexist, but the truth is that it is sexism in the first place, the constant "real men don't cry" and "what are you, a wussy" and so on, that creates and perpetuates the so-called straight male into the macho stereotype you so despise.
If you are willing to dislike a person based on what's in between their legs and what partners they prefer, you're no better than the macho you criticise.
Or so I think.
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Being turned of to closed minded people is fine, but I don't feel it is right to emphasize their gender or sexuality. Idiocy doesn't exactly take those aspects of a person into account.
But then again, this is merely my opinion on the matter, and you are free to disagree.
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